This one is on a bit of a personal note, meaning a thought came to me today as I was walking back from lunch with a co-worker. We were passing by a psychic reading center in the heart of Downtown Los Angeles and the girl I was with jokingly asked me if I wanted to get my fortune told. Trying to be funny I responded, "No thanks, I already know my future." At first we both giggled at how pretentious the comment sounded, then after a brief pause she commented, "Wow, thats actually pretty deep."
Now, judgments aside about the comment itself, there is a vital lesson to be learned here. Some of you have heard about the book "The Secret" or at the very least the concept of visualizing your own success in order to make it reality. The basis for this principle is to practice visualizing yourself as you wish to be, even if you are not there yet. For example, if you see yourself someday becoming a successful entrepreneur; visualize yourself in a conference room running the show, or in a brand-new sports car you just purchased, or sending your kid off to an ivy league university, or what ever life you see yourself living.
The basic lesson here is to never settle for less than you wish for yourself, and never sell yourself short in any situation, so long as you deserve what is coming to you. On a personal level I know that one day I will do amazing things and will live a life some only dream about. Do I know how I'm going to get there? No, do I know how long it will take? No. Am I going to sacrifice my happiness now to get there? Absolutely not, but my belief in my personal success is so embedded in me that I know I will live the life I was meant to live, the life I want to live. The only question you have to ask yourself is, do you know what kind of life you want? More importantly, do you believe in yourself enough to live it?
"Destiny is not a matter of chance. . . it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for. . . it is a thing to be achieved." ~William Jennings Bryan
Too often we attribute our successes as well as our failures to chance rather than choice. Something happens to us, wether it is positive or negative, and we react in kind. The key word here is react. We have been conditioned as a society to react a certain way in particular situations based on our experiences and the societal norms we have been exposed to since childhood. One of the underlying concepts we are taught without realizing it is that there are limitations to what we are capable of. Of course our parents and teachers tell us we can do and be whatever we set our minds to. Yet society tells us to operate within certain parameters, and to follow a certain path that most are expected to take. Your born, you listen to your parents, you go to school, graduate, get a job, get married, retire, join AARP, then it's either open casket, closed casket, urn or you end up becoming part of some landscape in the form of sediment.
In a nutshell this essentially what is expected of most of us, and the path that most people take for one simple reason, it is the path of least resistance. The reality of life is that each and every one of us has a choice to make every moment of every single day. Everyone has dreams, aspirations, places they want to go, and things they want to achieve. The sad truth is that most people end up settling for a lesser life than they had originally planned for themselves. The more time passes the less obtainable their dreams seam to become. The important thing to understand is that like the past, time is a construct of the mind. Your dreams are never out of reach, your life is never too insignificant to make amazing, and most importantly it is never to late to change it. So the only question you have to ask yourself is: Will you live by the status quo? Or will you take action and choose to change our destiny? Better yet, will we choose to let life happen to you? Or will you choose to happen to life?